Who is Writing the Script to Your Life?

How you answer this question in the privacy of your own heart and mind reveals a lot about your innermost machinery. Whatever answer you choose will speak volumes about your metaphysical outlook, your level of consciousness, and your willingness to embrace life.

There are basically two kinds of answers.

One answer is fatalistic: Somebody else has the pen in hand instead of you. It might even mean that you simply don’t know, or don’t care who is doing the writing – after all, how can you, if you’re only a character in the story?

Maybe you answered that nothing is doing the writing. That’s cynical, and perhaps a little dark, but either way, it’s still not you holding the pen, and that means that you feel your life is not under your control.

The other kind answer sounds very different.

This answer is a positive and fearless statement to the world: “I am doing the writing.”

Playing the Roles Foisted on Us by Society

Do you sometimes feel as if you’re living someone else’s life instead of your own?

Revolutionary Existentialist philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche explains:

“Freedom is the Will to be responsible to ourselves.”

Revolutionary Existentialist philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche explains:

“Freedom is the Will to be responsible to ourselves.”

Do you sometimes feel like an imposter in your own life?

From the moment we come into this world we’re given a role to play. Somebody feeds us and changes our diapers, and slowly, one day at a time, we learn to stand on our own feet.

Then, during our difficult teenage years most of us experience a surge of personal potential, and we kick against authority.

We learn, usually through painful lessons, what it means to take responsibility for our actions in this world.

Parents, friends or mentors show us how to play roles in life, by example. We’re told what’s expected of us. These people may or may not have our best interests in mind – but somewhere along the line a role is foisted upon each one of us. Often there’s more than one role.

It can take many forms:  The achieving son or the nurturing daughter, the sport star or the academic girl, the popular or unpopular kid.

Then we take on roles at work too.

It gets even more complicated when we get involved in relationships, or start a family. Somehow it might begin to feel as if we’ve let go of the reigns, and the horses are running wild. Somehow that burning sense of potential we felt as teenagers begins to disappear.

We’re complex beings, and there’s nothing wrong with assuming a role in the family, or in society. Those parts that we play are different aspects of our personalities, and they help keep the wheels of the world in motion. The trouble comes in when we totally identify with those roles, instead of with our authentic selves.

Friedrich Nietzsche said:  Freedom is the will to be responsible to ourselves

Personal responsibility is the foundation stone of every form of personal development. It means that you take on the privilege and the difficult task of evolving consciously.

When you realize that the role you’re playing is scripted by someone else, it’s time to take back the power to determine your own life path – to write your own chapter, and your own ending.

Becoming the Authentic Author of Your Life Story

It begins with honest introspection, and that can be a painful thing – which is why most people avoid the question altogether. It’s easier to give over the control to someone or something else – that way it’s not your fault when things don’t go according to plan.

But avoiding the issue keeps you trapped in a role you’re not comfortable playing.

Take responsibility – it won’t kill you. Painful as it is, it’s the most empowering decision you can make.

This is not the same thing as feeling guilty. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean taking the blame for everything that goes wrong. You can’t control other people, and you can’t determine the ultimate outcome of every decision. Wallowing in feelings of guilt is just another way of avoiding change.

Instead, it’s a shift in your outlook. It means moving away from blaming outward circumstances, other people, or the cruel twists of fate for your problems.

You no longer play the victim, or react on ‘auto-pilot”. You’re taking the time to choose, and to create deliberately and intentionally instead.

Really, it’s the only way to live. It’s an exercise in will power.

Albert Einstein once said:

“Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will – his personal responsibility.”

That initial fear will turn into a tingle of excitement when you pick up the pen and start writing the story that’s inside you – the one that’s bursting to come out. It’s a kind of inner revolution – letting go of the imaginary bonds holding you prisoner.

Inwardly you’ve been saying “no” to life – now it’s time to say “yes.”

How to Unshackle Your Imagination and Create a Masterpiece

Acclaimed public speaker and author Eckhardt Tolle expresses it very succinctly:

“Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”

What does it mean to say “yes” to the present moment? It means being consciously present enough to embrace life – every small part of it. It means accepting the good along with the bad, and having enough personal dynamism to transcend both.

It means wielding the pen with skill as you write your own life story. It means celebrating the fact that you’re alive, and that you have a choice.

So in conclusion, let’s consider a few practical things you can do to become a more active writer.

  • Take a step back. De-construct your entire life story so far. Give yourself a blank page. For the moment, set aside all the roles you’ve taken on, as if they didn’t exist. Give your imagination enough room to do what it does best – create.
  • Forgive yourself. Accept the past – you can’t change it, so move on. Drop the limiting mindset you’ve had up until this moment. You’re free to create as you see fit.
  • Visualize your ideal life. What would you like the next chapter of your life to be about?
  • Give it color, depth and energy. Populate it with joy in the form of experiences, people, things and places. Dig it out from the core of your being – from that place that feels authentic and natural.
  • Write it down in a journal, put it on a vision board, paint it, sculpt it or design it on an app. Hold onto that vision, and let it infuse you with happiness. Focus on the way you feel, and the quality of your thought.
  • Once you’ve got that vision in place, lay it over the backdrop – the background scenery of your current life. The places and people might not change too much, at first, but your character will be transformed.
  • Now you will see more clearly what can be kept the same, and what needs to go.
  • Dropping some things in your life – like your job, or some of your friends might seem necessary but impossible. That’s going to be a tough choice, especially since there’s no guarantee about how things will turn out. But it’s your choice.
  • Remember, you don’t have to change everything all at once. Focus on wielding the pen, and allow the people around you the same freedom – they’re writing their own stories too.
  • Work out a basic plan, take a few risks and get to work on your masterpiece – the story of your life.
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